Thanks Kapaali, this is an excellent definition, and one that I wish some feminist had used on me as a young woman. I associated feminist with 'militant bull dyke" for so long that as a teenager I thought my mother was another Andrea Dworkin, mom was not a dyke, but there were times when I really wasn't sure. She did tell me once that she deeply resented the roles women were cast into. But that's sort of besides the point.
I started calling myself a feminist after I did my time in that jail they call a Battered Women's shelter. (this was after 10 months of a relationship with an alcoholic, which I had never been witness to before, so no experience of how to stay out of one)
It was educational to say the least and I got a really good "birds eye view" of what my mother went through with her ex-husband, who broke her jaw. Now I'll never be able to go back to putting up with alcoholic behavior or calling myself anything BUT a feminist! (was that all clear as mud?)

The only modification I would make to your statement is that I would be perfectly willing to do "women's work" as long as it was clearly understood that:
1. There is no shame in it if I am choosing to do it for my own gratification, I'm a giving sort of soul. ;-)
2. That I am getting paid decent living wages and am respected for it!
and 3. I do not concede that it is work based on anyone's gender!

I fyou have not already read it I recommend reading "Bitch" by Elizabeth Wurtzel. She has a lot of good theories about why the words Feminist and Bitch are gererally considered one in the same. Also Naomi Wolf's "Fire with Fire" is a great book on feminist power dynamic.

Much of society wants feminine women that are pliable, nice, and submissive. We should be happy with what the men choose to give to us and not demand equal pay or benefits because you know we are so much better off than we were 50 years ago. Our job is to be help mate, not partner, and definetly not dominant partner in the relationship. Women are to be the nurturers, the helpers, the ones that give up everything so that men can make this a better world for everyone (and if you believe that I've got some ocean front property in Arizona for cheap). Any women that does not live up to these feminized ideas deserves to be called a bitch, cunt, etc.

You're not a "heartless bitch" you just didn't do what they wanted you to do and it pissed them off. Sometimes you have to do things that make people angry regardless of how much you want to help.

Hippies are notoriously anti-intellectual, so the feminist perspective is I'm sure quite beyond most of them. Most hippies also seem to have 'way kind' sex-based roles, as well. Sugar Magnolia anyone? and what about that whole Rasta culture of mysogyny? Shameful...

Most so-called New Age culture also seems to be a whole lot of changing the content but not the form. Most people are too lazy to examine the source and meaning of their beliefs, so continue to perpetuate the status quo, albeit in trendy new exotic outfits.